Redefining Aging

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Simply put, it’s not easy to age. It takes resiliency, creativity and adaptability. However, this can be a time of great self-discovery. Why are we sometimes surprised when someone in their 60s, 70s, 80s or 90s becomes more creative, starts a new meaningful relationship, offers sound advice or begins a new endeavor or interest? Since growing older is an evitable part of life, why not look at these questions, focus on challenging negative stereotypes and reinforce positive contributions that occur as we age?                Over the past decade, society has begun to change its views about aging. Older politicians, rock bands/singers and actors, including Tony Bennett, Betty White and The Who, now appeal to younger audiences. This is a beginning of a transformation of how we view the senior years with a focus on redefining one’s purpose and an emphasis on creativity, resilience, and respect for experience. Let’s work together to create a new image of the senior years.

Growing older can open new doors to create the type of life you want to live. First envision and define what you want your purpose to be. It is important to challenge previous beliefs that one’s purpose in life is finished when one retires, ages or reaches a specific birthday. A 2015 study on healthy aging by Rush University Medical Center in Chicago showed that having a sense of purpose in life during one’s senior years can provide a shield against the development of Alzheimer’s. According to Gene Cohen, Ph.D., a pioneer in recognizing the creative aspects of aging, developing one’s purpose is crucial as positive changes lead to new opportunities for creative expression as we age. The ability to take risks that were previously not considered because of family and career obligations may contribute to greater creativity. According to author Jeffrey Kluger (2013), it may be no coincidence that so many creative types live long lives since they do what they love. According to Cohen, “the greater freedom and courage that many older adults exhibit helps explain why throughout history, many older adults beyond the age of seventy have assumed the role of shapers or shakers of society.”  Major contributors include Socrates, Copernicus, Gandhi, Golda Meir, Frank Lloyd Wright and Benjamin Franklin. Wright died at 91 just before his Guggenheim museum opened, and Benjamin Franklin negotiated the Treaty of Paris at 77 and signed the constitution at 81. In our present world, Wayne Thiebaud, 95, and Alex Katz, 88, nationally recognized artists and Edith Pearlman, 79, debuted her short stories in 2011 and won the National Book Critics Circle Award for fiction in 2012.

Now is the time to start thinking about your senior years with purpose and appreciation. This new thinking should include teaching our children the positive aspects of aging.  Of course, every senior doesn’t need to be famous or create a masterpiece. Designing one’s life during the senior years takes strength, resilience, respect and re-invention. Your senior years should be a blank canvas with new possibilities. No invention, artistic piece, creation or life is perfect. All lives have challenges and roadblocks. The senior years are a balancing act between physical changes, evolving roles, and creating a new purpose and examining new potentials. It is not a period in life where one should feel they need to stop learning or growing. On your blank canvas, it is important to recognize that there will be rough edges, challenges, road blocks, bumps and bruises but at the same time it can include brightness, spirit, possibilities and hope. According to Benjamin Zander, conductor, motivational speaker and writer, “live the rest of your life in possibility.”